We’ve reached a new decade! The years seemed to have flown by. As with all new years, most people are making plans on how to have a better year than they had before.
While I think people should always be making plans and changes throughout the year, Jan 1st is still a good benchmark to reflect back on the last 12 months and make plans for the next 12 months (divided into quarters).
I wanted to share 4 habits I feel would help improve you, your life, and your year.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
In this social media world, it is sooo easy to compare yourself with others. You see all the things they are doing and sharing, and sometimes you feel like you fall short.
Here are a few things to help start a habit of NOT comparing yourself with others.
I feel like there are two reasons why you do compare ourselves with others.
One, because there is something about our lives, we’re not happy about. And figuring out why you feel the urge to compare yourself to someone else or why you feel jealous of what someone else is doing is essential to stop this habit of comparing yourself to others. This is something I am continually working on.
Two, You care what people think.
Stop worrying about what others are thinking. Michelle Obama said, “success isn’t about how your life looks like to others. It’s about how it feels to you.”
You are the one who is going to live your life. When you’re making choices to do things that appear good to others but feels horrible to you, guess what? They are living their own life and what you do in your life does not (at least most of the time). Don’t do it.
You are the one living, experiencing, feeling YOUR LIFE. And so make sure the decisions you make, the actions you take, and the thoughts you have promote to you feeling good and happier.
Instead of always thinking people are talking about you, realize that they are also busy with their own lives. They do not usually have the mental or emotional space to just be focused on you. That’s a good thing.
Why do you care what people who are not even living the life you want to live, think?
2. Being happy
Being happy is a choice and a habit. Life is hard! Horrible things can happen but please don’t let those things distinguish who you are in a negative way.
I feel that the kind of mindset you have influences your actions and feelings. If you view everything from a lens of negativity, then everything will appear negative to you. If you perceive it through a lens of positivity, then everything will have a positive twist to it.
Instead of looking at an event and thinking of how it’s ruining your life or making you unhappy, think about what you can learn from this event or experience. How you could become a better person or help someone else who is going through what you have.
Changing your mindset is key to becoming a happier person.
YOU GET GOOD AT WHAT YOU PRACTICE SO PRACTICE JOY.
3. Not tolerating junk
This is more than just decluttering, it’s not allowing junk into your home, mind, heart, and social sphere.
Decluttering is extremely important emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. It’s by decluttering that you learn what things are junkie to you.
If you’re iffy about something or not sure how well it will fit into your home, allow yourself time to think about it. Don’t do an impulse purchase, instead tell yourself that if you’re still interested in this item in a month, and can see the benefits of having it in your home then you will purchase it.
Be clear with friends and family exactly what you want or don’t want in your home. But make sure to express that you ALWAYS appreciate their thoughts and willingness to spend time and money on you to make your home beautiful.
Don’t allow people bringing emotional junk into your atmosphere. It’s much easier not to let them into your space than to clear them out. These are the people that make you feel bad EVERY TIME, OR ALMOST EVERY TIME you leave their presence. It takes you forever to recover.
Of course, I had to mention journaling. You guys know how powerful of a tool I feel it is. Like I have mentioned many times before, journaling helps you discover, reflect, plan, and take action in ways that change your life.
Journaling will help you do all the previous habits I just mentioned to you.
In a world full of comparison, use journaling to be happy with who you are and what you are achieving; how you’re progressing.
Journal about the things that are adding to your happiness and the things that are taking away from your joy. Figuring those things out will help you figure out what to remove or add to your life to help you become happier.
Are there any habits from this list that you want to work on? Or are there other habits not included here that feel like it will be life changing for you?
Take the time today to reflect on the changes that would add the most to who you are and what you hope for your future.